I remember feeling so anxious for Cole's arrival.
" Who is he going to look like? "
" What is going to look like?"
" What kind of Mom will I be?"
" How is he going to smell? "
" Will he be a picky eater?"
" Will I have trouble breast feeding?"
" Are our lives over? "
" Will I sleep ?"
Every question, every "what if " raced through my mind each day,
everyday leading up to Cole's arrival.
This time, I am patient!
I find myself truly enjoying this pregnancy on a whole different level.
Maybe a more experienced level?! Maybe a more expecting level?! Maybe more appreciative for the ultimate outcome.
Being pregnant with Cole, every experience was new, and it was entering the unknown.
I had never felt nausea from being pregnant.
I never knew what it was like to have a craving for something that I would cry if I couldn't have it - like Taco Bell!
I had never felt a baby move inside of me.
I had never seen my belly big, and I couldn't wait to see what I would look like sporting the "baby belly!"
I had never seen a creation that was made by both Paul and I together.
All of those things I have now experienced.
This time around, its not any less exciting, or thrilling. Its just simply wonderful. I don't really find myself counting down the days nor do I wish for it to pass quickly.
In fact, the other day I couldn't remember if I was 18 weeks, or 19 weeks.
The other side to this "wonderful" - is a piece of the "unknown" I have recently entered.
As I watched Cole color a couple days ago, I thought to myself " How am I ever going to let you go? How am I going to be okay with you becoming a man?"
Call it hormones, call it crazy! But the thought of my baby boy going off into the world, becoming a man, fending for himself.. ::SIGH::
-If I could only put you back inside of me, and keep you there forever. Where no one can hurt you. Where no one can break your heart. Where you are safe- always.
Yes people, these were my psycho thoughts. Putting my child back inside of me. Only so I can protect him!
Later that day I changed Cole's diaper, and after each changing he has learned to say " thank you." Well, he did just that, and I asked for a kiss. As he kissed me I said " I grew you, never forget it!"
Whoa - where did that come from? Am I truly turning into a psycho Mom. Is this the reason why I am not so anxious for my daughter's arrival this time around - because I want to keep her inside of me forever?
Is there a medication for crazy?
This week I have felt my anxiety go from a steady,
normal 2 ---to a 15.
( On a scale of 1 - 10.)
My heart races, I can feel my blood pressure rise, my neck gets red hot. All of these things will happen at the slightest thought of ..
Cole possibly tripping on his untied shoe laces. So I constantly look to make sure they are tied - tightly.
Cole becoming a professional hockey player. Which means he would have to travel. Which means he would have to fly. Guess he isn't going to be a hockey player. Or do anything that entails traveling.
This is the range of psychotic "what ifs" that have been racing through my mind.
Deep Breaths Sheena. Deep, long, slow breaths.
I hope this is hormones, and something I will soon overcome. I hope this will be something to giggle at later. I hope this will soon pass.
My Mother was a " worry wart." In fact, I would tease her when she would get angry with me for being "ignorantly easy-going."
" Well Mom.." I would say . " Why would I worry when you worry for the both of us."
Am I becoming my "worry wart " Mother?
Don't get me wrong. If I am half the woman my Mother was, I will be great! But the "worry wart" part - I can leave that at the curb.
Will Savannah be " ignorantly easy-going" - which leaves me "psychotically crazy about LIFE?"
BIG. GIANT. ::SIGH::!
Xanax, cocktail, cigarette? ----- AnYoNe?
Oh yes, I'm pregnant.. and I want to stay pregnant with my child forever so that "Life" can never harm her.
So she can't fall and accidently hurt herself because her shoe came untied.
So she can never crash in a airplane.
.. and God, if possible, stick my son back in there so non of the above can happen to him. Please!!!!
Breath In. Breath Out.